Never say "Never".

Don't you agree with this phrase? Never say, "Never". I'm sure you have heard tons of people who say, "I will never do this" or "I will never be like that person" or "I will never be caught dead wearing that". All of this sound awfully familiar? I feel that when you incorporate "never" in an important statement that you're about to proclaim to the rest of the world, at the end of the day, you always tend to eat up your own words. In turn, the word "never" kinda has the effect of jinxing yourself. 

I have often heard many people said that they would never do/don that and it sounded like they were gonna uphold the promises they made to themselves forever. Yea, maybe they did keep those promises for a month or two, or for a year. They were weakened by some special force that was far more powerful than their own willpower. And thus, they succumbed to that formidable force and became what they initially vowed never to become, or wore what they previously thought was gaudy and inappropriate in their eyes.

Unfortunately, I have to concede that I am one of those people who have let their arrogance to cause their own downfalls. I have learnt that one has to be very cautious about using the right words when intending to make a point or to convey a message across - you wouldn't want the other party to misconstrue your words now do you? Only then people won't misjudge you or have the impression of you as being a liar. As long as we think before we say aloud our thoughts and are aware of the consequences, we should have no qualms about saying "never" to things that are harmful to us. However, don't use "never" frivolously.   

Learning to Relish Life

Certain experiences or events happen for a reason. In life, there is bound to be ups and downs, highs and lows. Only then we can improve ourselves, to become better characters which the world is lacking at the moment. Only then we can appreciate what is in front of us or be able to distinguish right from wrong, good from bad. We all have different lessons that we must learn from life itself. If we treat life as our teacher, then I suppose we won't be so disgruntled and resentful towards life. Instead, we start to look forward to tomorrow or to the next hour, with delight. Why hate when you can love? Why be selfish when you can find joy in being selfless? Why be angry and impatient when you know very well that anger only leads to more anger and eventually violence? Why be depressed and distressed when you can be happy and unfettered? Just let all the negativities that have been bottling up inside to dissolve and set yourself free. You just won't know what life has in store for you if you incarcerate yourself in the four-walled room, brooding in the corner and detesting LIFE.   

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I am having such a bad day. I thought it was over but how wrong was I. I need a break. From everything. I am going away. I don't give a damn what that person thinks! I am still going!!!

It is time to be selfless...

The world is in turmoil. Recently, calamities seem to be making headlines worldwide and in all forms of media. Natural disaster after natural disaster - they just keep rolling in as if there were no tomorrow.  

Sometimes, I find it depressing reading the news about harrowing events, especially when thousands of lives are concerned. One can't help but wonder: what's the point of reading all this, other than being up-to-date about the world's affairs, if you can't lend a helping hand? On the one hand, I wish I could be there to offer my services or skills that the aid organisations so desperately need. On the other, I feel I am not ready to take on a task of such a magnitude. It is a huge responsibility to be a volunteer and a helper. There should be more people like Mother Teresa. She is such an inspiration to us all. But I am sure there are those who emulate her devotion and care for people, or at least they try. 

China seems to be getting the brunt of things this year. If it is not the protests by people who strongly support the Tibetan cause, it is Mother Nature intervening, giving China a harder time by throwing in an earthquake that has claimed 18000 lives now. The Burmese junta is also in the same predicament as China. First, the brutal crackdown in September of 2007, which wasn't handled properly, and just less than 2 weeks ago, the Cyclone Nargis struck the already-impoverished country, leaving a million people homeless and famished. In the wake of all these natural disasters that have been happening, my heart goes out to all those who died and to those who survived but lost their loved ones to the wrath of Mother Nature.  

I just hope all that has been obliterated be built again as soon as possible so that the survivors can move past the trauma and continue living again.

Feeling 14 all over again

You do everything I wish I did
Everybody wants you, everybody loves you
I know I should tell you how I feel
I wish everyone would disappear
Everytime you call me, I'm too scared to be me
And I'm too shy to say,

Ooh, I got a crush on you (crush on you)
I hope you feel the way that I do
I get a rush when I'm with you
Ooh, I've got a crush on you, a crush on you...

Daydreaming harmless?

Anticipation is what gives us the thrill that we crave for. In anticipation of an event, we conjure scenarios that we wish for in our heads. This is called fantasizing. It is fine to daydream, to build castles in the air, but it can't be a routine, unless your dreams have the potential to become a reality. 

It is hard not to fantasize about the things you want but don't have and about a person you really like but who doesn't reciprocate. Having said that, if one fantasizes about a certain object or subject 24-7, this fantasy can turn into an obsession and it can lead one to dangerous grounds. Anyone has the capability to go mental if the person allows the mind to wander off away from the real world. The person wouldn't be able to distinguish between what is true and what is false. Majority of us do not realise how powerful the mind is. If we do not strengthen it, just like the body, it becomes weak and vulnerable to all kinds of psychological illnesses.

There is a limit to everything. As I mentioned earlier, it is ok to dream about being in a world where everything happens in accordance with your wishes. However, do not let your daydreaming go overboard and turn it into an act of hallucination.

A reminder to all

There comes a point in time where one realises that there are people who matter and there are those who don't or never did. Don't worry about those from the past because there is a reason why they didn't make it to the present.  

I couldn't agree more.